A little bit of car seat technology can help you reduce the risk of car crashes
On the weekend of April 9, a couple of days after a snowstorm rolled through the Midwest, my mother and I decided to take our first vacation on a plane.
I drove the couple of hours to the Midwest with my dad, who was driving.
The plan was to fly back to Michigan in the evening, then take the family’s vacation in a car, which would mean a few hours in the driveway.
A few minutes before the departure time, I texted my father.
He texted back: “Let’s go!”
He didn’t even have to say a word.
I didn’t think much of it at the time, but the next day I found out he was going to be in Chicago to visit his mother.
The night before we left, we had dinner together.
I’m the first one on the table, he said, and I didn’ t think about it at all.
But we went back to his place and I was like, “This is it.”
When we got home, I went over to his apartment and he was on the phone with his wife.
He said, “I’m coming out.”
I was in shock.
He’s like, ‘I’m going to take the car, I’m going back to Detroit.’
“I was so stunned.
I thought, I have to make it work, but he’s not going to drive it.
I knew I didn t want to get into that situation.
It was like a nightmare.
We got home from dinner and he texted me, “Hey, you know, I love you.
I hope we’re going to see you tomorrow.
“We talked for a while, and then I texted him, “Oh, I hope I can see you again.
“And then he texted, “Yeah, sure.
I think I’m okay.
“That was the most intense moment of my life, because I didn think I could do that.
The next day, my father and I were driving to the airport.
It took us 20 minutes.
We came to a stop, and we were both so surprised.
I was sitting there with tears in my eyes.
We sat there for about 20 minutes, talking.
He was still in shock, and he said to me, I can’t believe he did that.
I asked him, What if you don’t like the way the car looks now?
He said to take a look at the pictures.
I said, What the hell are you talking about?
He was like: “It’s a little bit more than that.
It’s a lot more than the way it looks now.
“I’m like, Why did you do that?
And I started crying.
I couldnt understand why he did it.
We drove back to the hotel.
I got on the car and he went to get the keys, and it was the same thing.
He sat in the passenger seat and I put my hands on his shoulders and started trying to comfort him.
And then I was thinking, If he did this, then he should know better.
That was my first reaction.
I just didn t know what to do.
He had this very specific vision of what I should do.
I can tell you right now, it was very uncomfortable.
But I knew he could handle it.
He looked at me and said, You know, you look like a wreck, don’t you?
And he was very proud of that.
That’s why he didn’t want to drive the car.
I sat there in shock for a couple more days, wondering what to tell him.
It didn’t work.
We had another talk the next week, and my dad told me, you’ve just gotta accept it.
When you’re driving, you feel like a car.
You can feel the steering wheel.
You don’t feel like you can be anywhere.
You feel like your body is in control.
That is a big step for a lot of people.
When it happens to you, you need to take some time to get over it.
And you have to be more open to letting go.
But you can’t just go back to driving.
You have to do some things to make sure you’re not making mistakes.
After that talk, my dad and I drove to Michigan, where I was staying with my mother.
We were on the highway when we saw a large sign that read “Carseat Safety Month.”
My dad and the other drivers stopped.
The signs said: “No children under 14.”
My father was driving the car seat with me.
The other drivers were not.
They were all older.
I remember thinking, Why are they driving so young?
Why are all the older drivers here?
And then it dawned on me.
What is the point of this?
I’m older, I know better, and that’s not how people should drive.
It would have been easier to just sit there and drive.
But it’s so hard to just say, “